advocating for Families, Children and extended Family

Providing Positive Approaches for Moving Forward

ideas, thoughts and philosophies

HHSS!

Happy Healthy, Successful and Spiritually Positive. Happy is what makes you laugh and feel good inside.  Healthy is about taking care you both your mind and body.  Success is NOT money but what and where you do or go in your life that makes you feel good about being you.  Spirituality is NOT about religion but about believing in yourself.  This not something you necessarily have 24/7 but something to strive for.

People tend to gravitate to those that are HHSS.  Think about it, it is very draining to always be around someone who is filled with hatred, angry, and rage.   But most importantly, we deserve to be HHSS.

The Festering Wound

The Festering Wound and letting it heal.

You get a rash on your arm.  At first it starts as just a red rash that itches, so you scratch it.  But it just itches more and more.  So you scratch it more and more.  You scratch it so much that it starts to get raw.  Soon you are scratching it so much that it starts to bleed.  Pretty soon, it is not just bleeding but infected and oozing.  In fact, it is a festering open wound and the only way for it to heal is to cover it with a bandage and ointment.   You just have to leave it alone for a while, so that eventually, you can reach out and touch again.

Building Self-Esteem and Self-Worth in children

Building Self-Esteem and Self-Worth

What can you do to help your child(ren).  Build their self-esteem and sense of self-worth.  This does not mean praising when he does good in school or out on the soccer field.  This means that when he behaves appropriately, you praise him for this.  When he makes a good positive statement or responds appropriately in a situation, you praise him.  This helps to build his confidence in his own thought and behavior patterns.  And he builds trust in his own abilities to think.  And this in turn helps him to critically think.

Thinking outside the box

In Joan's world there is no box.  She believes that you have to think so far outside of the box that the box is inside out, upside down and not even shaped like a box.  If you stay in the box, you get trapped and literally boxed in.

Books and Resources

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Books written by Joan T. Kloth-Zanard & PAS-Intervention
Where Did I Go Wrong?  How Did I Miss The Signs?  
Dealing with Hostile Parenting and Parental Alienation (2nd Edition) 

Where Did I Go Wrong? How Did I Miss The Signs? is a prevention and intervention resource tool for parents, courts, attorney's, counselors, agencies and anyone else who needs help with high conflict divorce and relationships. From start to finish, this book talks about divorce, marriage, hostile aggressive parenting during and after a divorce, how to deal with this, and help the children to thrive. From cover to cover, this book is filled with information to help stop the snowball affect of high conflict divorce, hostile aggressive parenting, all of which leads to the psychological abuse of the children by destroying their relationship with one of their parents or another relative. It is the hope that this book can help prevent this abuse from happening and help these families to move forward in a healthy, positive and successful way. All proceeds from this book go to PAS Intervention, a Federally Tax-Exempt charitable organization approved to accept deductible contributions under Sec. 501(c)(3) of the IRS.

Click to read the First Six Chapters Free
Broken Family Bonds: Poems and Stories From Victims Of Parental Alienation (2nd Edition)  HardCover or Ebook
Parental Alienation is psychological abuse when one parent deliberately destroys the relationship between the children and the other parent or grandparent.  This book is dedicated to all the families who suffer from the abuse of Parental Alienation.  PAS is a form of domestic violence perpetrated using psychological abuse.  The stories and poems are real.  The people are real.  The hurt and anger are real.  Let’s not forget this and work to intervene early with prevention and intervention so we can stop PAS from harming any more families.  To have your story added to the next edition of this book, please email your story in word document toTellUrStoryPoem@PAS-Intervention.